1. Who are you?
I am an Aspiring Difference Maker, a Marketer, a coffee snob, an amateur blogger, an orchid grower and an - Adventure seeking lover of life.
2. What does “I AM Enough” and/or “Journey2Enough” mean to you?
Journey2Enough is more than a movement, it’s knowing you are not alone in this journey we call life. It is about driving the authentic beauty of being real, being you and knowing that, is enough.
3. Ancient research and psychology has shown that it is believed that our source of inadequacy or our wound, starts very early in our childhood. What would you say was the source of your inadequacy when you were growing up and why? Or maybe it started in your adulthood. Speak to whatever makes sense to you.
In my search for meaning I have come across a few interesting obstacles, the one I believe makes me feel most insecure is not having control.
4. How have you conquered it?
I have conquered the “control freak” in me (and still trying to) by really living in the moment, being present, having boundaries and by getting to a point where I realised you are much stronger than you think. Being courageous during difficult times can help you grow in ways no one would have thought possible. In Cape Town next to the Sea Point promenade trees grow with the wind instead of trying to control the direction in which it grows, that is what makes it unique that is what makes it strong
5. I believe we live in a world that is riddled with what I call the comparison pandemic that magnifies our inadequacies rather than magnify what we already have, how do you relate to this comparison pandemic?
Constantly comparing yourself to others will make you miss out on the essence of your existence - being you. Only you can bring you to the table and when you bring your full self instead of a version you believe others want to see, you will find purpose and it’s then when we start colouring outside the lines and challenging the status quo, it’s then when we make a real difference in the world.
6. What do you practice if you do, to magnify what you have rather than contribute to the “i am not good enough narrative”
By knowing #IamEnough - you are enough, will make you lighter, it will make you authentic, relatable, human and strong. Focusing on that which makes sense instead of that which does not make sense will help you grow, understand and thrive. Someone once told me to always assume best intent - and that has made a huge difference in situations where I could have easily not felt good enough because of someone’s words.
7. Research has shown that women suffer from “craving of being liked” as compared to men who will rock up and do what needs to be done without considering repercussions, have you experienced that? The likability challenge? And how have you dealt with it?
Ah the constant search for being liked, I sometimes wonder if we get trained this at nursery school - getting to a point where you realise that you are not everyone’s cup of tea (or coffee) is one of the most liberating and scary revelations ever - and that is okay. The people who like you will be sure to have a cup or two a day and that is #enough.
8. What would you say to someone sitting at home and is feeling inadequate in whatever sphere of their life? Because what we know is the feeling of inadequacy has levels and spheres. You could be making it in your professional life but something in your personal life is not going so well and is making you feel like you are not enough? How does one transfer that feeling of being whole from one sphere to the next?
Feeling whole is a journey and in difficult times it can be really really hard, but the one thing that keeps me going is to try… Knowing that certainty is the enemy of growth gives perspective, that’s why accepting the inevitable imperfections is necessary for growth.
Living towards the Light is what keeps me going in trying times and when I feel inadequate.
10. What does courage mean to you?
Courage to me means facing a huge mountain, pausing, taking a step back, putting on your relentlessly red lipstick and then facing that giant head on.
11. What have you learnt in your journey that has contributed to your journey to enough?
It is in the challenging times we learn most, that we become wiser and that our true character shows up. In life you get choices and ultimately your choices make you.
12. What would you say to your younger self?
Younger self - Embrace who you are. Search for your inner peace, know what makes you happy, know your worth, know what gives you joy, know your purpose, know your values, know YOU. Do not conform to the world, bring your full self to the table, be strong, be courageous, who you are is enough, who you are is more than enough. Keep believing that you can make the world a better place. Wear your lipstick and shine!
13. What is your hope for this movement?
My hope for the movement is that we all realise that being enough is a journey and not a destination. That we are all together in searching for our enough and it is in the search that we find our purpose. If our journeys can make a difference in one person’s story, that is enough.